Trying to have a baby can be hard. In our minds, when we are younger, and we think about starting a family, it all just seems to fall together seamlessly, with no problems, no worries, no difficulties. However, in real life, trying to have a baby can be stressful, expensive and downright scary. Read on for some tips on how to cope if trying to have a baby isn’t happening as quickly or as easily as you were hoping.

Stay Positive

The very most important thing to remember when trying to conceive is to stay positive. It often seems like all of your family, friends, neighbors, and even complete strangers might be getting pregnant at the drop of a hat, while you are getting no results. If it makes you feel bad or stressed to attend baby showers or be around other people who are pregnant or new parents, don’t do it.

There is really no reason to put undue stress on yourself. Also make sure to get enough sleep, and hang out with your partner aside from doing the baby dance. Try to stay positive and enjoy the journey while you are trying to conceive. Yes, this is easier said than done, but try to stay positive as much as you can.

See a Doctor

Most experts agree that it takes couples usually a lot longer to get pregnant than they think it should, and that couples think they are infertile when actually they just haven’t given it enough time. The recommendation is that if you are over 35 and have been trying to get pregnant for six months or more, you should see a doctor.

If you are younger than 35, the recommendation is that you should see a doctor if you don’t get pregnant after a year of trying. However, if you have a family history of fertility problems, or if you just generally think that you might have a fertility issues, go ahead and see a doctor. It will really put your mind at ease to see a fertility doctor so don’t worry about it if you want to make a doctor’s appointment before the recommended time frame.

Help Yourself

There are lots of things that you can do to help yourself when it comes to boosting your fertility. You can buy a fertility blend, which is an over the counter fertility supplement that contains all sorts of different fertility herbs, vitamins and minerals. These fertility blends are sold under brand names like ConceiveEasy. You can take these pills daily to boost your fertility and help you get your body up to the task of carrying a baby.

You can also take over the counter prenatal vitamins to boost your fertility and make sure you are at your healthiest. Make sure you are getting enough sleep and enough exercise. Eat a healthy diet and try to cut back on processed foods and junk food. Maintain a healthy weight, since being underweight and overweight are both bad for conceiving. Take your health into your own hands and do whatever you can to help yourself.

Know Your Body

Figuring out your cycles and when you ovulate is one of the most important things that you can do for your fertility. There are not very many days during the month when a woman can get pregnant, so it is important that women figure out when they are ovulating and have sex during that time. There are several different ways that women can figure out when they are ovulating.

One way is by using a special thermometer known as a basal body thermometer which charts temperature changes that are very slight. You can do this for a month or so and note when you see the small jump in temperature. This is when you are most likely ovulating. Another way is by using an ovulation prediction kit to figure out when you are or are not ovulating. Charting natural body signs, like cervical mucus to figure out when you are ovulating.

Have Sex Regularly

Another great way to boost your chances of getting pregnant is to make sure that you are having sex regularly. Most experts agree that having sex every other day during ovulation is the best course of action for getting pregnant. That way, you are sure to be having sex at least once during ovulation.

Some couples choose to have sex the day before ovulation too just to make sure that there is a chance for the sperm to be waiting for the egg to be released. This is because the sperm is able to live longer than the egg. Also, doctors suggest that you don’t try to avoid sex when you are not ovulating, and that you have sex regularly throughout the month. Doctors used to suggest that couples try to “save up” and only have sex during ovulation, but that is no longer thought to be the best course of action.